Young children see every situation as a new experience. Whether it’s a trip to the beach or hearing parents fighting, children will integrate these experiences into their worldview. This impacts their self esteem and their beliefs about life and their place in it. Eventually we start living life according to our beliefs instead of experiencing life anew every day. These beliefs are learned (I am unlovable, it’s not okay to feel better, etc.) and while in many cases they are tools for survival, we often reach for these outdated beliefs as adults instead of being willing to risk new experiences.
Fear is the belief that something will turn out badly. Fear usually relates to things that haven’t happened yet, such as the worsening or the continuation of an unacceptable situation.
Where do we learn fear? Fear has been used for centuries to control the masses. Even now, television and the internet use fear as the major component for controlling and managing groups of people. If people can be aware of the agendas behind this fear, we can learn to recognize it as an opportunity to release it.
There are times when we don’t have all the information and allow fear to take over our thoughts and behaviours. Other times we don’t bother to become educated or to question what is going on. Often we give our power away in the hopes that we will be taken care of. Is it easier to be afraid than to question who has power over us? Or even, Why do I give my power to that person, group, organization?
Use fear as an opportunity to gather information and be aware of agendas. Ask yourself if it is your fear or somebody else’s. When you can identify the fear as yours, then you can take steps to think it through and welcome it into your consciousness. A good way to start is to ask yourself: What am I expecting to turn out badly?
Reminder: Never put yourself in harm’s way. Fear is a powerful motivator and can be dangerous. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
“Life is like a roller coaster; you can hang on in terror and scream with your eyes shut, or you can throw your arms in the air and laugh”. ~ Shelley Timoffee