The following excerpt is taken from an email blog by Susan Bushell, AAMET EFT Trainer and Level 3 EFT Practitioner.
Where are you now?
Late summer is an incredible time of year here in Canada. We have had a rest, caught the sun’s rays on our backs, embraced the waves in a lake or ocean and most likely sat on a patio with a good friend and caught up with each other’s lives.
In this last week of August, before the busyness of fall begins, I invite you to become quiet…..really, really quiet and allow yourself to feel where you are in your life. (Deep breath)
How’s it going?
How are you feeling?
Are you happy with things right now?
Let’s face it. Nobody else is going to live our lives for us. We might as well grab on with both hands and get inspired.
How might you like to spend your time on the planet?
What feels like it’s ready for a change?
Are you open to that change?
Integral patterns of human behaviour are set down in our nervous system before we reach our sixth birthday. (Sheesh, where were you in grade 1?).
Depending on how your life was going back then, you were either taught great life strategies and beliefs or not.
What did your first family teach you about life, about love, about feelings?
How are you acting out those teachings now?
One common pattern I’m seeing in my practice and sometimes even in my own personal work is how good we are at dodging our deep internal work. Previous generations perhaps taught us that we should avoid it at all cost because in their time, feelings were to be avoided, controlled or would make us look weak and vulnerable.
Today even if we make attempts to heal emotionally, we tend to rush, feel impatient or frustrated with ourselves when issues are challenging or slow to improve.
I can assure you, there is a very good reason for this. We have been taught to fear our own feelings. Despite wanting to feel better, we are afraid of what it might mean or what might change or what we might be expected to be or do if we do this deep internal work. So what do we do?
Surrender. Let go.
Make friends with the part of you that rebels against doing your deep inner work.
It’s OK that you do this.
So take a moment in the dog days of August to be really quiet and allow your deepest internal baggage to emerge. In this quiet you may come to an awareness that simply in itself can be healing. And if you can tap as well, clearing away the energy of the feeling, with persistence and courage you will create real change in your life.
For more information about Susan and her extraordinary work please go to www.freeyouremotions.com